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Online Dating& Tips& Web Of Self Improvement06 Jul 2009 05:37 am

Anyone will characterize me as a uniter not a divider, for the obvious reason that playing cupid is a my natural job. I fully endorse joining Great Expectations. No escaping it, and it shows up when you’re not looking. Good singles networks, like this dating service for Milwaukee singles with a long-history of dating expertise, know Milwaukee’s qualified singles individually. Great Expectations Milwaukee would coordinate handmade social events as any good friend does, and that’s dating done right. Matchmaking is a hidden profession offering big promise by producing companionship till “death do us part”.

I’ve dispensed companionship advice online and for friends and clients. This article won’t be rehashed advice. You know all that. Listen to what your date has to say, dispaly some sense of style, try not to be nervous, be honest and (a big one) steer clear of comparing traits you have in mind in your thoughts. Take it breazy, like you ordinarly would! Welcome spontanaity in any situation. Obviously, don’t try to portray that you’re someone other than what you are. Suppose the relation develops into something serious, then your partner will be disappointed. But here’s the secret to dating, it always helps to have Great Expectations. So you may not be surprised that matchmaking is a talent I have offered singles since grade-school. Victories singles around me earned me that reputation. The results can’t go unnoticed.

Look at Rebecca and Daniel plus their gaggle of little ones. Take a stab at who matched the couple together at the Kentucky dreby once upon a time, and their result is apparent. Frank and Lindsay also hit it right off after I set them up on a kayaking excursion not long ago. But most importantly my sister Amanda and her companion. It’s no secret this adorable pair head to the alter in Vegas this August. They’re perfect together and built their love via Great Expectations, at my behest.

So I have kept on the mark and marvelously productive too! But all this time, as I focus on getting really good at assisting people realize the spirit that fosters companionship, I paid little attention to my own dating life. What irony prevails when Miss Cupid Herself seeks an arrow shot her way? I can’t wait to meet desirable Great Expectations Milwaukee singles, ’cause if one is highly knowledgable with something one can be picky. Perhaps these sentiments has kept me from really getting serious about dating. Not unlike other Milwaukee singles, I know that you can’t live this world by yourself. So that’s where I’m at, taking my own advice by impeccable, professional dating advice.

Vanessa Pacheco

Your Matchmaker

Online Dating& Tips& Web Of Self Improvement27 May 2009 02:14 am

For one, Nobody can say I’m pleasantly comfortable living alone and be 100% truthful. Even then, I’m not uncomfortable about it, either. I just bring it up here as a delicious piece of info foreshadowing what I will shortly explain in grand style.

This time last week yours truly was walking the dog, Trisha, pondering about joining a dating service for Phoenix singles. Now, I stand to each of you as a fully satisfied member of the dating service. Seriously, it’s true. I like it! If you’ve been paying attention, you’re probably thinking, “You got some ’splainin to do, Lucy!”

So, I saw this Great Expectations Dating site and can really get behind their approach. They’re for the honest singles who think dating should mean something.

Because in all honesty I’d never been too big on the ridiculous nightlife ritual serial daters (ie: everyone I know) call “The Dating Game.” I heard it more than anyone should. Every night friends ask, “Are you seeing somebody?” and “You should date!”

“Baloney!” I say to them, and playfully so. “Not after that last blind date you set me up on.”

“You’re as ridiculous as you are hilarious,” they reply. “You have no way to know that!”

Thankfully, that’s my partner in crime The One-And-Only (hehe) Trisha Holland. She beams rational thought to my mind to set me straight. Friends are always there . No countering that, so I signed up.

Back to the message of this blog entry. As I browsed from hundreds of outfits (hah) and desirable, honest singles for my first Great Expectations date, I acknowledged something true. For years, I hadn’t allowed myself too many actual great expectations for dating and myself in the adventurous path of this world. Being single isn’t so bad, specifically with healthy optimism. Holding great expectations works terrifically in dating.

+Denise Davis

Health Hall& Making Money& Web Of Self Improvement14 May 2009 02:34 pm

Here is some info about familiar eye problems for which you may need prescription eyeglasses

Myopia – Short sightedness, near sightedness

Myopic people view fine up close, but not at a distance. Distant objects seem blurred, whilst close objects are in focus.

DESCRIPTION

The eye ball is longer than usual, making the eye "too powerful." The image is focused at a point ahead of the retina. The higher the degree of myopia, the shorter the distance at which the Shortsighted can visualize clearly.

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SOLUTION

Myopia can be corrected with the use of a concave lens system which is thin in the center and thicker at the periphery. This type of lens system pushes the focus back onto the retina and restores good vision at any distance.

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HYPEROPIA – Also known as long sightedness, far sightedness

Farsighted people visualize far better at a distance compared to close up. Even though distant objects are properly focused, the accommodation required to focus on close objects causes eyestrain.

DESCRIPTION

The eye ball is shorter than normal which means the eye is not powerful enough. The eye is said to be "too short" and the image is focused behind the retina.

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SOLUTION

Hyperopia is corrected with the use of a convex lens system which is thinner at the periphery and thicker in the center. This type of lens brings the focus forward to the retina.

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ASTIGMATISM

People with astigmatism have poor near and distant vision. They do not sense the contrasts between horizontal, vertical and diagonal lines in the same way as the rest of us.

Astigmatism is always accompanied by another visual impairment, such as Myopia, hyperopia and Presbyopia.

DESCRIPTION

Astigmatism is normally due to an irregularly-shaped cornea that is slightly oval, rather than round, and oblong as opposed to spherical.

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SOLUTION

Astigmatism can be corrected using a cylindrical lens whose curvature offsets the corneal irregularity.

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Web Of Self Improvement24 Jun 2008 07:05 am

I’ve consulted in some pretty tough situations.

I was in Kansas City and almost literally booted out the door by a former wrestler who was the local office manager of a sales company. He didn’t like the idea of “corporate” sending someone out into the field to snoop on his operation.

Of course, that wasn’t my purpose; he was just paranoid, a big, paranoid, angry ex-wrestler.

There was that car rental manager who didn’t like my tone and chose me off to fight off in the sticks that fringe one of Houston’s airports.

And there have been oh so many situations where I’ve dealt with hostile trainees, who felt it was their birthright to be dumb, to be employed beyond their intelligence, and to be paid for it.

Each episode has been a chance to work on my warrior being-ness.

What am I talking about?

The parent who has a sick kid, has to arrange health care at a time when he has no insurance, and can’t take off from his poorly paying job, is someone who has to create warrior being-ness.

The addicted person, who staves off the habit for just another hour, is someone who has to do the same.

We have the idea that warriors look like Arnold in “Conan The Barbarian,” or like Stallone in “Rocky,” or some other icon of physical toughness.

Not so.

A warrior is anybody who faces force with persistence.

You don’t even have to confront it with courage. Just be where you are, knuckle down, and do what you have to do, and keep doing it, until whatever threatens you breaks, or backs down, wears out, or simply gives up.

This grit is what most people seek to develop by participating in martial arts, and a formal training program can help you to get it. But really, the world is your dojo, and nearly every situation is your chance to develop warrior being-ness, if you use it that way.

Dr. Gary S. Goodman, President of Customersatisfaction.com, is a popular keynote speaker, management consultant, and seminar leader and the best-selling author of 12 books, including Reach Out & Sell Someone® and Monitoring, Measuring & Managing Customer Service, and the audio program, “The Law of Large Numbers: How To Make Success Inevitable,” published by Nightingale-Conant. He is a frequent guest on radio and television, worldwide. A Ph.D. from USC’s Annenberg School, a Loyola lawyer, and an MBA from the Peter F. Drucker School at Claremont Graduate University, Gary offers programs through UCLA Extension and numerous universities, trade associations, and other organizations in the United States and abroad. He holds the rank of Shodan, 1st Degree Black Belt in Kenpo Karate. He is headquartered in Glendale, California, and he can be reached at (818) 243-7338 or at: gary@customersatisfaction.com.

Web Of Self Improvement24 May 2008 01:19 pm

Thinking Unconsciously

Daydreaming your way to performance and profits.

Like many of my clients, I am always looking for ways to speed things up – to produce more results with the same or even fewer resources. We probably agree on this. The key is certainly not about working harder; it may not even be about working smarter. But there are definitely ideas which work, and those ideas need to be uncovered. Often you can find them through analytical thinking. In my last article I discussed this: a process of asking deliberate questions, and in a disciplined, even rigorous way, coming up with answers. Asking and answering, that’s the analytical thinking process. Do it enough and you will likely come up with something useful.

But there is a whole other process, a “something” that goes on in the mind. Many people call it intuition. Others call it “gut feel,” or “tapping the universal spirit.” In contrast to rational, linear left-brain thinking, it is sometimes called “right-brain” thinking, synthetic, or holistic thinking. I’m going to call it unconscious thinking. What I mean by this cumbersome phrase is that this kind of ideation is based on removing the linear, rational, questioning, conscious thinker from the equation, and tapping into the results when they come.

How do you do that? Everybody has their favorite way. Several people, responding to my last article’s caveat that I was not referring to the thinking that goes on in the shower, wrote that their best ideas occur in the shower. For others, unconscious thinking occurs while driving their car. Or working out in the gym, riding a bike, or jogging. Gardening seems to be a hot spot for hot ideas. And sybarites I know report getting great ideas while being massaged and sipping wine in the hot tub.

Some people put themselves in a trance state via meditation or actively listening to music. Others go into a trance watching TV. I get great ideas when I’m at the movies. (Curiously, it doesn’t work while watching a movie on videotape — I think the level of concentration is too low — which may be a key to the way these processes work. For the car people, it only works while driving — not as a passenger. The logic behind this is similar.)

What is this spontaneous generation of unconscious ideas? I must confess that, really, I have no idea. But I do know how to make it happen. Spontaneously. The key is to loosen the grip of consciousness on the mind, and get the logical, linear, Q&A thinking process out of the way.

Spontaneous generation comes in two basic flavors –fortuitous and deliberate, both of them “unconscious”. An example of the fortuitous kind is what happens when you are driving your car, and an incredibly useful thought just “comes” to you. If you are not prepared, you are likely to lose it as quickly as it came. On the other hand, if you keep a voice recorder or notepad handy, you can capture this potential gem. Plus, being prepared to capture these “fortuitous” intuitive pearls, seems to be a very important part of having them more often.

An example of the deliberate version is when, upon retiring for the evening, you tell yourself (with feeling and conviction) you want to dream the solution to a particular problem. If you get lucky (back to fortuitous), you will. If you do this repeatedly — program yourself with a problem — you will start to dream solutions regularly.

Analytical types may scoff at this “telling yourself” bit. But recent research in cognitive science indicates a possible model for the mind as a series of unconnected agents, each with its own limited function set. Some of these agents may be linked by well-worn pathways. Others, however, have never communicated, and as yet have no way to do so. “Telling yourself” what you want to think about has the effect of sending a broadcast signal throughout the agent population, which may enlist them in your unconscious thinking process.

Whether by happenstance or intention, the available techniques, if you can call taking a shower a technique, are interchangeable. The only difference is whether you set out to generate a specific idea or whether random ideas comes unbidden.

Two habits will make unconscious thinking work more effectively for you. First, prepare your environment to capture ideas as they come. I put 3×5 note cards and pens everywhere — in my car, my night-table, the medicine cabinet, next to my favorite reading chair, my suit pockets, gym bag, even my under-the-seat bike storage pocket — just about everywhere I am, I can find a note card. Plus, I carry a voice recorder in my briefcase. The new one has a digital interface to my computer and transcribes notes automatically.

The second habit is to deliberately plant seeds of ideas in my unconscious mind. I regularly “re-mind” myself of the areas where I could use a creative flash. For instance, if I am working on a book chapter or an article, or if I need a new solution for a client’s business problem, I put that into my mental hopper and let it sit. Often ideas come to me, and if I am prepared to capture them — voila!

So — what are some ways to stimulate unconscious thinking?

We’ve mentioned a number already. One way to stimulate unconscious thinking is to engage in physical exercise. Jogging, swimming, biking, hiking, weight-lifting — all of these activities are great for idea generation. The key is they are all sort of mindless – not requiring much detailed thought. This may seem paradoxical — if you are trying to shut down your conscious mind, wouldn’t you want to distract it with a conscious thought process? No — it seems you want to have the opposite effect– you want to lull the conscious questioning thinker to sleep, and simple repetitive physical work seems to do that. Likewise, playing a rhythm instrument like drums or bass, or any sort of rhythmic chanting or dancing, will produce a similar result.

These activities, along with morning showers, afternoon massages, and evening hot tubs, may be considered strange in the corporate setting (except in California.) Here are some more corporately flavored, “structured” ways to generate unconscious thinking.

Mind mapping is an excellent technique for tapping the unconscious. Tony Buzan, the inventor of mind mapping, has a book called The Mind Map Book which details this technique. Mind mapping seems to unlock certain expressive mechanisms not available by writing. Drawing representations of your problems and possible solutions, however crudely, also works well. For truly graphically challenged, try collages made from cutout images. Sometimes just flipping though magazines will stimulate ideas. Get a big stack of publications — ones with good pictures — and start flipping.

There are activities which you can do in groups. You can play word association games. The game will usually have a context — the idea you’d like to explore. Start with a list of words which relate to your central idea, and free associate. Speed matters in this process, so record these games on audio tape. Another version is to use one of those magnetic poetry kits. Give people the kits and let them go to work. Also, you can mind-map in groups. Or gather a bunch of great images on a projector and let your group play off them.

I mentioned this in my last article: you can use structured information sources in an unstructured way. Use the Oxford English Dictionary (really any dictionary will do, the OED just seems better.) Pick words at random and establish connections with your central ideas. Or use a Tarot deck, or the Taoist I-Ching. You used to be able to do this with fortune cookies but the message quality has gone downhill. Pick a passage from your favorite inspirational literature such as the Bible or Jonathan Livingston Seagull, and invent a connection to your central idea — see what new things come up.

Try attending a seminar when you need new ideas. The seminar need not even be on the subject of concern. Just being in the seminar room, removed from your controlled environment, can cause your conscious mind to let go a little — just enough for spontaneous ideas to creep to the surface and make themselves available. And for those of you who don’t – read some books. On anything. Reading books always stimulates random thinking if you let it. Remember to keep note cards and pens handy.

Bring in outside speakers or consultants to spout off their ideas. (I know this might seem like a shameless plug.) Or cross-over people from departments who normally don’t work together. That always gets the juices flowing. Take these mixed-up groups and do any of the above.

Try game playing — simple things like checkers, go fish, touch-tackle football, Lego, plastic model building, even pickup sticks. Even home or office renovation work, which is simply another game to play. Try something community minded -a neighborhood cleanup program: lots of sweeping, lawn mowing, and trash pickup. All of these “games” distract the conscious mind. Do a session, gather everyone together, and ask what ideas came up. They will.

Do you get the idea? Do you have any other ideas?

Here then are your first two assignments. One: Make a mind map of all the ways you currently do this. Two: Focus your intention on developing some new unconscious processes. Walk around for a few days with this thought deep in the back of your mind. See what you come up with during the week.

The steps are:

Identify the area in which you want new ideas.

Create a diversion for your conscious mind. Lull it to sleep using any of the above methods, or one of your own.

Keep handy a way to record your ideas. This is critical. Use a pocket recorder or note cards. It’s a good idea to always carry one or the other.

Take your unconsciously generated ideas seriously. Pay attention to them: you may not use every idea, but at least evaluate it. Your unconscious mind likes that and you’ll get more.

Visit www.paullemberg.com/toolsandtips.html to download a list of more “methods” to stimulate unconscious thinking.

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